Many authors who write about non-committers say that winning is important to the “hunter-type” who is almost always a non-committer. Once the prize is won, with or without sex, the hunter is on to new quarry.

Winning is important to the hunter-type.

5. Non-Committer and Winning.
"The Hunter"
By Jan Wilson
with contributions by the SOLO staff and SOLO readers.

Hunt.
Compete.
Win.

Many authors who write about non-committers say that winning is important to the “hunter-type” who is almost always a non-committer and who is often, but not always, male.

Once the prize is won, with or without sex, the hunter is on to new quarry.

And the woman left behind is even more baffled that a man could seem so sweet, so caring, so attentive, so empathetic, all without sex, and then suddenly start backpedaling.

Once the prize is won, with or without sex, the hunter is on to new quarry.

When men (consciously or unconsciously) realize they have a problem, they may prefer to appear a nice guy.

They exhibit an overwhelming attentiveness while allowing sex to stay in the background.

Rather than push for sex, they push for commitment.

So... you do it. You commit!

Now what?

Read on how they've gotcha now.

SOLO for Singles: Readers' Commen

Absolutely true. I found there to be a distinct link between abuse and 'Commitmentphobia'. After three years with someone reeling me in than reeling me out, I feel strongly about this correlation. People who don't receive love as a child, cannot give it out in a healthy way as adults-end of story. It really is tragic to be involved with someone like this, as it can practically destroy your self esteem. I guess it is a good lesson in learning to let go of something you think you cannot live without. Painful nonetheless. 
    Sincerely, A