Despite what the non-committer promises though, things never change because this person can not allow the relationship to grow. |
You do it. You commit!! Gotcha now! You're sold and he/she starts getting anxious! Suddenly you begin to get mixed messages from the male and female non-committer. He/she begins to pull back or won't move forward with the relationship. He/she may begin to find fault with you, especially things you can't change such as short, tall, black, white, Jewish, Catholic, can't or won't have children, etc. If the anxiety is near panic, he/she may end the relationship immediately. Or push you to leave by bringing out his or her faults. |
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When you are sold, the non-committer begins to get anxious.
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For example, now is the time the financial
problems he mentioned in passing are described in detail. Or some personality
trait that would make her less desirable is stressed. With some it is time to
get involved with another man or woman. Milder anxiety may cause him/her to keep the relationship alive but unchanging or in turmoil for years. If you threaten to leave, some promise to change, often becoming emotional and even crying. Others are stoic, allowing you to be the teary, emotional one while they stand on logic and/or lack of emotion. |
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